Helping Others While We Take Care Of Ourselves

While helping others, we must ensure that we are also taking care of ourselves. When we are healthier, we are more likely to be able to help others. By getting restful sleep, eating a balanced diet, getting physical exercise, taking breaks, and having a support system, everyone is more likely to feel less strained.

Whether we help a loved one for a long or shorter period of time, it can take a toll on the caregiver. Creating and maintaining a balanced schedule, leaving time for our own self-care, and balancing emotions are just a few variables.  Many report feeling “guilty” because they want things to be different. Wishing that circumstances were different and their family member is feeling better. While the road to recovery and wellness may not be as quick as we wish, we can try to create a routine that works for all persons involved.

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“We have two hands. One to help others and one to help ourselves”
​- Audrey Hepburn

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All circumstances will vary slightly because loved ones may require different needs. Whether they need emotional, physical, or intellectual assistance, support can be an important aspect. For instance, if you’re a primary caregiver who offers support, try to plan a time at the end of the day where you feel supported. 

If you notice that you regularly feel emotionally drained, schedule a phone call with someone who lifts your spirits. Take note when you’re near your capacity and take some time to read a book, try a new recipe, go for a walk, etc. so you can hit the “refresh” button. 

Finding and utilizing self-affirmations can have a positive impact. An example is “this too, shall pass,” recognizing that the difficulties we face today will not be forever.  Enlist the help of others, when applicable, to directly help your loved one or to help yourself. Guilt and loneliness are commonly associated with long term care-giving.  Remember that you are not alone. Your goals matter and you can make them happen.

Support groups for caregivers are often available in different communities. Please reach out to one of your local case managers, mental health practitioners, and/or medical professionals for specific resource options in your community.


Stay well,

Author

Megan Bowling, M.A., LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  She has been in the mental health field for more than ten years and is passionate to share mental health wellness strategies. ​