It’s no secret that we often believe negative comments that we tell ourselves. We are our own worst critic. While our friends and loved ones might tell us differently, we frequently don’t believe the good that they tell us. Sound familiar?
You’re not alone. It’s called mental filtering and it’s a very common type of cognitive distortion. Simply put, it’s when we tend to focus on the bad things and ignore the good. Think of using a colander in the kitchen. We clean off our food and let the “bad” rinse out. Only our brain is doing the opposite by letting the “bad” stick and all the good runs out the bottom. Sounds exhausting, right?
Do you consider yourself an introvert? Do you get tired after social engagements? The holidays are tough enough, without being overwhelmed by all the social engagements. The trick is navigating through the maze of holiday parties and still feel like you’re able to recharge your battery. Renewing our battery levels may vary a little from person to person. Following these tips will help you glide through the holidays.
As a follow up from last week, when we discussed the anxiety cycle; today we will be discussing cognitive distortions. Cognitive distortions are negative ways of thinking about ourselves or situations that involve us. We all have a tendency to use negative logic but some of us are more likely to have them more frequently than others. Sometimes, these negative beliefs are so engrained that it’s hard for us to view it another way.
About The Author: Megan Bowling, M.A., LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California. She has been in the mental health field for more than ten years. Megan's specialties include: anxiety, trauma, life changes, mood, relationships, and school challenges.