It’s no secret that we often believe negative comments that we tell ourselves. We are our own worst critic. While our friends and loved ones might tell us differently, we frequently don’t believe the good that they tell us. Sound familiar?
You’re not alone. It’s called mental filtering and it’s a very common type of cognitive distortion. Simply put, it’s when we tend to focus on the bad things and ignore the good. Think of using a colander in the kitchen. We clean off our food and let the “bad” rinse out. Only our brain is doing the opposite by letting the “bad” stick and all the good runs out the bottom. Sounds exhausting, right?
About The Author: Megan Bowling, M.A., LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Orange, California. She has been in the mental health field for more than seven years. Megan's specialties include: anxiety, trauma, life changes, mood, relationships, and school challenges.