It can be! Anxious thoughts can be exhausting any way we look at it. Now for the good news. There’s something we can do to rectify this pattern. At this moment you might be thinking, “this won’t work for me” or “there’s more bad than you think” and I get those feelings. I’ve been there too.
The trick is knowing that there is bad there, but there’s also a lot of good. It’s not about seeing the world through rose colored glasses but acknowledging that there’s more good there than what we tend to see.
I’ve got a trick to help you along this journey. It’s called, “good thing, bad thing, who knows.” The goal here is to look at the bad, the good, and remembering that there’s more in the in-between. Let’s look at a common concern of “I’ll never get this.” Bad thing: we’re not getting it right now. Good thing: we’ve learned new things in the past and have had good success. Who knows: I may not be fantastic at it now but never is a long time.
Don’t worry if this idea feels difficult to you right now. Just like this last example, it takes practice and consistency to really feel like you’re mastering it. For more examples, subscribe for some FREE resources and I’ll send some for you to practice. Remember, articles and online resources do not take the place of therapy. For best results, individual therapeutic sessions allow you to practice and process thoughts and feelings.
Megan Bowling, M.A., LMFT
It's no secret that we often believe negative comments that we tell ourselves. After all, we hear them all the time! We may not even realize it, but those negative thoughts can really add up and take a toll on our self-esteem. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to counter those negative thoughts. First, try to catch yourself when you're thinking them. Once you're aware of the thought, you can choose to let it go. Second, try to focus on the positive things about yourself. When you catch yourself thinking a negative thought, try to counter it with a positive one.
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